A variable perspective.

This past week, my husband and I attended the wedding of two good friends of ours, Keisha and James. It was a lovely ceremony, the bride was gorgeous and the groom was quite happy. It was the blending of two loving families, a veritable rainbow palette of colors, resembling a flavorful meshing of humanity, some mocha, some caramel, some vanilla.  My husband mentioned that he didn’t think we had attended one wedding since we were married over 4 years ago. Of course, I could hardly believe that. As a couple, we have gone to birthday parties, fund raisers and church banquets. I told him, surely, he was mistaken. He said, no, we have gone to lots of funerals, but, no weddings.

So, let us see. My brother died, two of my Aunts died, my uncle and his wife died, my husbands aunt died, his cousin died, his step daughters husband died, one of the older men of the church died and then one of the younger men died quite unexpectedly on Christmas eve. Yes, we have gone to a lot of funerals.

It would appear then, that a wedding was long overdue. There have been lots of babies born and many milestones that we have celebrated with the grandkids, awards, graduations and recitals of every kind. But, no event, that has brought together families and friends to enjoy the solemnity, the sanctity, the joyousness of lives joined together, ready to travel a path of love and unity, with a little crazy thrown in.

Boomer wisdom implores you to remember that there is an end of the road for everyone.  However, today is not that day for you are still here, still moving and breathing and reading this post. Take time to attend a few weddings. Let it remind you of the hope that is in you, and then take that spark and set a fire that will allow you to make some changes that bring you joy in this life. Remind yourself that there is yet time to sing, and dance, and laugh out loud.And,when you do, spread that mirth and frivolity around. It is all about your perspective. Are you living life like it’s a funeral or a wedding? We all have attended a lot of funerals and there are sure to be more. In the meantime, enjoy this blessing of a life. Live like you’re attending a celebration. Joyous, gregarious, happy for the good fortune of those around you. Enjoy this time on the earth that you are blessed to have. Life is too short to do otherwise.

Here’s a toast to you and yours! Blessings be upon you!

james keisha and the kids


Happy boomer gal ( read smart, feisty, quirky, adventuresome, funny, sassy woman of a certain generation) willing to share my journey and advice with anyone who would not repeat my mistakes. Happy to fully disclose the joys and pitfalls of love at any age, the desire to age well, and the joys inherent in every day. Utilizing poetry, photography, and whatever creative entity that would bring a smile to a hurting heart. Author, wife, mother, sister, daughter, friend, humanitarian, exhorter, educator, activist, student, Christ-follower, adventure seeker, pharmacist. Hoping to give all and use all I am for the good of others. Come along. The journey may be difficult, but, it will always be an interesting adventure!

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