I got to thinking that in this season of gift giving and card sending that there might be a present that although not found under the Christmas tree, should be found in the hearts of the aggrieved.
Aggrieved, those who feel they have been slighted, mistreated, taken advantage of, not appreciated, misused. Here you can insert the word that comes to you when you remember, as you sit at the dinner table, the sister that owes you money that has not been repaid. Perhaps, its the neighbor that borrowed your favorite tool and returned it broken (or maybe never returned it). Or the relative that couldn’t do the right thing by thanking you for the clothes you purchased, the tuition you paid for those nephews/nieces, the spouse who spends more time taking care of the needs of his mama, than he does you. Aggrieved.
I mean you can hardly enjoy your food for seething as you look at the people who you want to love (and could) if they weren’t so undeserving.
In the midst of this holiday time in which the ultimate gift is celebrated for Christians, (the birth of the Christ child), Kwanzaa (the emphasis on family and community) and Hanukkah ( the celebration of replenishment and dedication) why so much anger and divisiveness? As the infamous Rodney King was heard to say, “can’t we all just get along?”
Boomer wisdom would encourage you to let it go. Give up keeping tabs on what you did and what they did and why what they did was worse than anything you ever did. If you ever needed a reason to end the feuds and offer the gift of forgiveness, look back over this past year and just think of all the empty chairs at family tables in which family and friends once sat and will never visit again. If you could hear their voice again (as irritating as it was) or watch them try to weasel out of their obligations to you (no matter the size of their debt) what would you give? Would you be willing to clear the slate and start over?
Be honest. What would you give to see that person sitting across from you again? To get a new text? Or hear their voice? If you would give anything, toss that aggrieved persona. Reach out and give a gift of forgiveness. It’s a present that’s too important to sit under your Christmas tree. You will reap a benefit that is immeasurable. Rebuild the bridges of family and neighborly love by forgiving.
Blessings to you all!