Today is the first day of the new year. Revelers are back at home, sleeping off food, drinks and too much reveling. Churchgoers who do such things are trying to rest after midnight services that uplift the spirit and strengthen one for the battles that lay ahead in the next 364 days. Then, there are those who like hermit crabs simply enfold themselves in their blankets and stare mindlessly into the one-eyed bandit, their game boxes, videos, and television sets.
In those past 365 days of 2018, there have been loved ones lost, resolutions canceled, lives waylaid by pink slips, illnesses, addictions, and estrangements from friends and family. And, in the midst of it all, we have continued to do what we do. Isolate ourselves from the things that truly matter, instead, increasingly either working too much, making social media the barometer of who we would be, leading to our ascribing relationships the characteristics of tangential fluff.
I have a penchant for all things old. To that end, I have one of the old rotary phones that actually work. To reach someone, I have to stick my finger in the hole over the number and truly dial the rotary part of the phone, wait until it returns to his setting and redial the second number. To dial someone in this matter takes a minute or two, unlike my cell phone, in which I tap the numbers and voila, done. If someone is on the phone, I get a tone that alerts me that they are on the phone already, it doesn’t automatically go to voicemail. My grandkids are totally baffled by this phone and are very excited to answer it when it rings. (My husband has a thing for landlines).
Boomer wisdom wants to encourage you to purposefully reach out and call your friends and family. I know that texting is easier and somewhat more convenient. The problem with texting and cell phones is that they have made us dumber. If there was an emergency and you needed to reach someone, there are very few phone numbers that you (or me) could actually pull from our real brains. In fact, work on learning a few phone numbers this year. I promise you that the achievement of knowing a few numbers by heart is quite satisfying. 🙂
I’m writing this post so that this year, you (and I) will make the effort to TALK to those who matter to us. That you will decide to put the cell phones away at the table, during family gatherings and at outings with friends and just be present in that moment when those who love and care about you are within a hugs’ reach. Instead of holding your phone so close, hold them.
Blessings to you all!