Have you ever regretted not doing something? Of course, as one ages, it is easy to look back on the follies of youth and just ask, what the heck was I thinking??? You review your days of youth and wish that you had not engaged in some of the raucous and riotous activities you enjoyed and suffered through. But, this post is not about what you wish you had not done, but, the remorse you feel deep down over the mistakes and missteps that occurred when you consider your life and what you foolishly or perhaps, erroneously let slip away
I am talking about the one(s) that got away.
Let me tell you a story that to this day has me searching for a little girl. Her name was Georgia Bell and we were the bestest friends all the way up to the sixth grade. But, then her folks moved and I have been looking for her ever since.
You would think that the loss of a childhood friend would make me all the more cognizant of the value of friends as we age. But, unfortunately no. Like many highly mobile professionals, I have moved from state to state and in the midst of it all, lost contacts with some of my most precious and prized “possessions”, my friends.
Two weeks ago, one of those friends passed away and I was shocked to hear that she lived within an hour or so of my home. Of course, I planned to catch up, but, she had moved and in the hustle and bustle of my days, I neglected to follow up and find out where she was.
Now, that can never happen. There are few things in life as valuable as a real friend. The kind that you can just drop in, have dinner and a great conversation without calling them first. Those friends that even after many months, the conversations begin at the point you left off many moons past. The friends who know most all your exes (and your secrets) and can tell you where you went (and are) wrong and how often. Who laugh and cry with you and will literally give you the clothes off their backs.
Boomer wisdom wants to tell you to neither wait to renew old friendships or call up the new ones. We are all sailing on small boats that can be put out to sea and never be seen again.
If your friends mean anything to you, make the effort to reconnect.
Because if you wait too long to say your hellos, all you may end up with are sorrowful goodbyes.
In memory of a really good friend, Carolyn “Puddin” Talbert. I sure did love you girl.