Easter Forgiveness love

Sacrificial Love

I have been thinking about what it means to love someone. Not the kind of love that evokes eros, but the kind of love that is steadfast when passion or remuneration is not a part of the equation. The kind of love that holds true when betrayed and humiliated and denied, lied and trod on without any remorse on the part of those who would profess their unwavering affection. The kind of love that holds strong when wronged and no apology is forthcoming. How do you love when your love is not returned in a way that encourages you or is kind or makes you feel cherished? And, you feel mistreated and know without a doubt (you think) that you are the one in the right and that other person (him/her) totally and absolutely not right! How do you love?

I have been pondering this question as my spouse and I are engaged in one of our marital spats and are at odds with each other. In addition, Easter approaches and with it, an example of love so extreme it is otherworldly.

My question then becomes, can I love like Christ?

The example before us is clear.

  • Jesus loved when imprisoned unjustly.
  • Jesus loved when his friends denied him.
  • Jesus loved even as Judas kissed him.
  • Jesus loved when he was beaten and marched to Calvary with a cross on his back.
  • Jesus loved when he was stabbed in the side and a crown of thrones pressed down upon his head.
  • Jesus loved when after feeding and healing people, they still cried, crucify him!
  • Jesus loved when they spit on him and called him names.
  • Jesus loved when they mocked his good name and jeered, come down if you can King of the Jews.
  • Jesus loved as he died in our stead knowing that his gift would not be appreciated by those he was saving.
  • Jesus loved as he rose from the grave and didn’t rise to annihilate those who hung him to die, but to declare that there was a place in his Fathers kingdom for those who believed.
  • Jesus endured nail after nail after nail being hammered into his tender flesh and still he loved.

Jesus was magnanimous in his forgiving and his love.

So, how do we love when we aren’t feeling it?

Boomer wisdom wants to encourage you to pattern your love after Jesus’ example on the cross. For when he was not shown love, he loved anyway.

Forgive and forgive again. Then extend sacrificial love. Even when it hurts.

Happy boomer gal ( read smart, feisty, quirky, adventuresome, funny, sassy woman of a certain generation) willing to share my journey and advice with anyone who would not repeat my mistakes. Happy to fully disclose the joys and pitfalls of love at any age, the desire to age well, and the joys inherent in every day. Utilizing poetry, photography, and whatever creative entity that would bring a smile to a hurting heart. Author, wife, mother, sister, daughter, friend, humanitarian, exhorter, educator, activist, student, Christ-follower, adventure seeker, pharmacist. Hoping to give all and use all I am for the good of others. Come along. The journey may be difficult, but, it will always be an interesting adventure!

18 comments on “Sacrificial Love

  1. Karon Watson

    Oh Bailey! My my my, this is some heavy stuff and it’s all true. Oh to love in this fashion would be blissful! To give love and then wonder if you will get the same in return. No questioning the love of Jesus, but that of man? Why must I wonder?


  2. Harriet Johnson

    My thoughts on this exposition brought me to I Corinthians 13 verses 4-13 where the author, Paul, describes love as being patient, kind, does not envy, etc.


  3. Shenice Kimbrough

    Beautiful said & illustrated. I’m thankful for Jesus’ sacrificial love time & time again!


  4. Shenice Kimbrough

    Correction: Beautifully said…


  5. Kenya Williams

    Great article that requires self reflection for the reader. Thank you for sharing the message of love


  6. Latesha Richardson

    Within this last year of my life I have endured some trials and tribulations of life but God has not left my side. I have adopted a daily challenge for myself where I have been talking and praying to God and waiting to hear from him before I make any decisions in my life. I can tell my life has change since I have drawn closer to him. I went to the early service at church this morning and the pastor was preaching on how God died and arouse on the 3rd day. He talked about how God was crucified and didn’t complain. He also stated, “when as children of God will have our own cross that we will have to bear with life but God will always be with us. I am on a daily walk to forgive those who have hurt me so that God can forgive me and bless me with unconditional love and good health. Debra you are a great writer and a woman of God who has been blessed abundantly with words of wisdom. I pray God will continue to pour blessings upon blessing on you and your family.


  7. Hi Bailey.
    Love you blog. God has blessed you with amazing gifts. Glad you are using them for His Glory and you are sharing them with your Life Group Sisters!
    God Bless You,


  8. Love like Jesus does!! Love you.


  9. Sandra Jones

    You always leave me in awe
    Thank you for keeping me in check.


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