A false supposition……

My Mother died a little over four weeks ago. She was 85 years old with a mind like a steel trap. If I called and asked for someones’ number she could usually recite it off the top of her head. The only number I can recall similarly is that of my own cell phone digits.

For someone her age she was in pretty good shape. I often said I would sit down and fill in the gaps of the history of her life on a planned extended visit to see her. Yet, when in her presence, I became her oldest daughter, full of the many mundane tasks that daughters normally take on. We spent time laughing and confiding and debating and reminiscing, but, the work of getting her life from her memories to paper (rather than my head) never quite materialized.

There were significant milestones that she entrusted to me that she will never see happen. Although, I will continue to work on them, the fruition of those things can never occur without the pain I will feel that they were not accomplished during her lifetime.

The problem is that in the living of this life, we tend to put off things we feel can wait until tomorrow. And that is where the regret of what we chose over what we desired can literally crush us. It isn’t that the choices were bad or hurtful or inappropriate. It is simply that we can’t do everything, only some things. And, those “some things” better be the “best things” if you want to have peace.

What I am suggesting is that if the choice before you is people versus purse, choose people. Family versus fame, chose family. Service versus servitude, choose service. And, once you have made the choice, follow up with actions that support it.

You see, we think we have time. Time to tie in all the loose ends when we are ready to do so. Time to spend time with those we love, after we finish doing all that other stuff on our plates that is seemingly so very significant. And sadly, we forget that those those we love have a limited supply of days allotted to them.

Boomer wisdom would remind you that the problem with the belief that we have time, is that it can be so very false. Give all you have to those you love today. Make time with them a priority and a priority again and again. You won’t regret not one second of that time. I guarantee you. I didn’t. In hindsight, what I do regret is not clearing my schedule to add more minutes to our time when time was available. Because I was counting on time that I thought we still had. In the future. A false supposition.

Blessings to you all!

In loving memory. My Mother, Catherine Hall Williams. 12/12/34 – 6/22/2020

Happy boomer gal ( read smart, feisty, quirky, adventuresome, funny, sassy woman of a certain generation) willing to share my journey and advice with anyone who would not repeat my mistakes. Happy to fully disclose the joys and pitfalls of love at any age, the desire to age well, and the joys inherent in every day. Utilizing poetry, photography, and whatever creative entity that would bring a smile to a hurting heart. Author, wife, mother, sister, daughter, friend, humanitarian, exhorter, educator, activist, student, Christ-follower, adventure seeker, pharmacist. Hoping to give all and use all I am for the good of others. Come along. The journey may be difficult, but, it will always be an interesting adventure!

9 comments on “A false supposition……

  1. Harriet Williams Johnson

    Thank you for a very well-said and well-written piece about life. It is a reminder that our priorities should be aligned with the saying, “people first, then things.”


    • Mabel Davenport

      I have awaken to the sound of your mother’s voice on many Monday mornings. I have a habit of leaving the TV on as I sleep. I was blessed with many of her messages.

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  2. Martha Richard

    Words of wisdom and love. Thank you for sharing your reflections and well intentioned admonitions. I will reread your thoughts and take them to heart.


  3. Nekia Bryant

    Thank you so much for sharing such a heartfelt wisdom. I truly appreciate your outlook and recommendations on love and family. You are absolutely right time is precious and we have to make our loved ones a priority because once they are no longer here we seem to then realize how precious life is. And what we must recognize is today is precious. Thank you for your boomer wisdom.


  4. lpsunshine3

    Gratitude or thankfulness for your willingness to share pales in light of how I truly feel. You allowed us into the deepest part of your soul, and that I am truly appreciative. I felt the pain and longing for a loved one that has gone home. The other day I had the urge to list all the household expenses, since I’m the one responsible for paying all the bills. I want to put everything in order, because we know not the day nor the hour when we will be called home. I want to feel at peace that I made things a little easier for them. You are right, we should make the time with our loved ones a priority and not take them for granted.


  5. Wise words indeed. I will take note and reassess the time I spend with loved ones. May you & your entire family find peace and comfort through your time of mourning and reflection.


  6. Karen Williams

    That was beautifully written cousin and such a eye opener!! Time is something that we really don’t have to waste, so we have to make the best choices of our time.❤️
    Thank God you have those beautiful memories of your mother!


  7. I am thankful for women like you, and I am even the more thankful for women like your mother. Although I never met her, I feel like she touched my life through you. My condolences to you and your family sis🙏🏼
    LaDonna Edmondson ~aka~ Lady Gip


  8. Bettye Davis

    I enjoyed the transparency, wisdom, and love that was highlighted in this article. It was a reminder of how precious and short life literally can be and the importance of savoring each unforgettable moment with our dear love ones. It was a wake up call that enabled me to surmise about people, places, and things and their importance in my life. Thank you for an inspiring article.

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