Lately I have been doing a lot of thinking about my life and in which direction it is heading. Or should I say, what direction I would like to see it going. There are so many distractions to pull or push one off the path that you once envisioned for yourself. Sometimes, the thing that is the source of your inertia is illness. A period when you want to move purposefully toward destiny, but, must rest and recover until you can continue. That illness can be physical or mental and not necessarily YOUR confinement, but, the consequences of grief over the death of someone you love. Perhaps, newly added caretaker responsibilities are preventing you from truly addressing your future in the way you were expecting. There could be financial, career or relationship challenges, in fact, anything that looms before you that presents a possible hurdle to your moving forward and landing in that “sweet spot” of desired fulfillment.
But, what if those obstacles were for your good?
What if the place you are stuck in wasn’t an end to all your hopes and dreams ever coming to fruition but a place to stop and take stock of what’s really important? To assess what truly has value going forward?
What if this was your reset point?
Consider this. You are standing on the road of your life and before you stretches out into the distance a tall and majestic bridge. If you have mapped out your journey, you are fairly sure that you know what’s ahead once you cross over. But, what if calamity awaits before you are safely on the other side? Perhaps, just beyond your eyesight is a drunk driver careening out of control headed in your lane. Instead of a horrific accident, possibly a cancer diagnosis. The untimely death of a relative or friend. The loss of a job, a home, a divorce.
If you are like me, I have two responses to bridges. As I approach, I either speed up so I can hurry and get off or I slow down to a crawl. My mind races as I’m conjuring up ways to safeguard myself should the bridge foundation starts to crack or I try to see how far down I will need to jump if it collapses all together. Sometimes, I’m able to take my mind off my fears and smell the breeze off the water or look to see if there are tugboats or people fishing below.
One thing I know about bridges is that it is easier to get on one than it is to get off in the middle. That is mainly because most bridges do not have a turnaround access. Want to go back the other way? You must travel to the end, get off and return back to your previous destination by driving on the opposite side of the bridge. Once you’re on your bridge, you are destined to travel it or try making a turn around into traffic. Doable, but, not a good idea.
Boomer wisdom believes that bridges are a metaphor for the unique life challenges we inevitably face.They are opportunities in which we can show our determination, our perseverance, our belief in the intuitive nature that tell us that our destiny can not be denied. Delayed. Yes. Scary. Yes. Worth it? Absolutely!
The experience of pushing ourselves to acquire the life we want, the achievements we’ve earned or the accomplishments we deserve can be euphorically high or subterraneously low, but, exponentially powerful.
Be prepared to keep going until you’ve reached your expected destination. No matter the setbacks. In the meantime, rest in the knowledge that in due season, you will arrive. And, try to enjoy the view, no matter your vantage point.
Boomer wisdom speaks blessings to you all as you cross your bridges in the only way you can, one step at a time.
Never to forget where we came from and always praise the bridges that carried us over. – Fannie Lou Hamer
Habakkuk 2:3-For still the vision awaits its appointed time; it hastens to the end—it will not lie. If it seems slow, wait for it; it will surely come; it will not delay. (the Bible, ESV)