Today being New Years’ eve there will be many sanguine exhortations about how you can change your circumstances so your life will be better, your hips thinner, your love life fuller and your bank book fatter.
From You Tube to TikTok, from Facebook to what not, somebody from somewhere, will try to utilize your time or access your cash/Zelle/cashapp/Venmo accounts in order to convince you how they can help you acquire all the lovely trinkets that you can’t live without. Even though it appears you have done quite well so far, without all they are touting.
What most will not tell you is that in order to achieve any of the most extreme goals is that you must constantly be looking away from your present with your focus on what could be in the future, a future, that no one is promised.
Now, I am not one to say you should not have a plan. What I am saying that is that while you push toward your destiny, don’t forget to look around and really take notice of what is right in front of your face.
Today, my husband and I sat down to breakfast and were reminiscing about some events in our past. Little things, like trips to our uncles and aunts homes, play time with cousins and fun times, the times we made our own ice cream at Big Mama. If you have ever had that experience, you remember sitting around as the adults got the ingredients together, the rock salt, the crushed ice and the ice cream mix. Most times we all got a chance to turn the crank and we sat around that container like the best movie was playing. What a memory! And, it stays as fresh in our memories as that ice cream tasted, because we were all riveted to what was going on in that moment.
But, unfortunately, that was the exception. I told him how I wish I had paid more attention to what was going on at so many other times in my life instead of either rushing to enjoy the next thing on my list or only half heartedly enjoying the interaction of that moment.
So many friends and family have passed on from this life and if I had just been in that moment, when we talked and laughed and played and teased, how more alive in my memory they would be.
Boomer wisdom prays that in the new year up ahead, that you will take time to stop and enjoy every moment with friends and family this year. If you seek adventures, look around and see what you see, hear what you hear and enjoy that moment you are in (maybe journal it too) and never put events over interactions with those you love. Because by the time New Years’ eve 2022 rolls around, some of the most precious people in your life, may be memories. And, how precious a real memory will be as you live out your life without them.
Blessings to you all & Happy New Year!